This article explores the true meaning of Locktober within the BDSM community—a month dedicated to chastity cages, self-control, and submission. It is divided into five main sections:
- What is Locktober and its Purpose?
- The Rules of Locktober
- Can You Orgasm During Locktober?
- Health Risks of Long-Term Chastity
- FAQs
Let’s get started!
Before we dive into the real meaning of Locktober, let’s clear up a common misunderstanding. The Locktober we’re discussing today isn’t the same “Locktober” challenge that has been trending on TikTok, where a bunch of cishet gym bros are participating in fitness challenges. As a Keyholder, I had to chuckle the first time I saw so many straight men taking part—did they really understand what they were getting into?
Later, I discovered that one of these participants actually realized their mistake and tried to redefine Locktober in their own terms, avoiding the “weird” original meaning. He felt the original definition was too negative because, apparently, things are only considered “bad” when queer people are involved.
But let me make one thing clear: Kink isn’t inherently queer.
While there are some parallels between these fitness challenges and the real Locktober—such as “locking in” to become a better version of yourself—what we’re discussing today has nothing to do with fitness hashtags on social media.
1. Now, Let’s Get to The Point: What Is Locktober, and What’s The Purpose of Locktober?
Locktober is a month-long challenge within the BDSM community where participants test their endurance by staying locked in a chastity cage or belt for the entirety of October. Unlike the fitness challenges, which some mistakenly believe are limited to the queer community, Locktober is actually an exercise in willpower and self-control, often incorporating elements of dominance and submission.
For some, Locktober means an entire month of orgasm denial. For others, it may only involve abstaining from penile stimulation while focusing on other forms of pleasure.
For more details on the benefits and effects of chastity play, check out this article: What Does a Chastity Cage Do?.
2. What Are The Rules for Locktober?
There’s really only one rule in Locktober: Have fun. As long as you’re following this rule, you’ll have a great time (with the understanding that SSC—Safe, Sane, and Consensual—applies).
Locktober became popular a few years ago as a fun challenge that kinky individuals embraced, with many people sharing their experiences online. Some even continued beyond October into “No Nut November” and “Denial December.”
If this challenge sounds like something you’d enjoy, give it a try! Keep in mind that “not removing the cage” doesn’t mean you can’t take it off for hygiene purposes. Regular cleaning is essential, especially if your cage isn’t designed for long-term wear without proper sanitation.
Ultimately, the rules you set for yourself and your Keyholder are entirely up to you, so make sure they fit your dynamic and enhance your experience.
3. Can You Orgasm During Locktober?
One of the most frequently debated questions about Locktober is whether orgasms are allowed. I came across a Reddit post titled Locktober Fail? Ruined Orgasm… that got me thinking more about this topic.
Locktober, unlike No Nut November, doesn’t explicitly ban orgasms. I’ve always interpreted this to mean that orgasms while in a cage are part of Locktober, not a failure. The core idea behind Locktober is spending all 31 days locked in a chastity device, but beyond that, it’s subjective to each participant’s preferences.
When I first learned about Locktober, I noticed that some people also abstained from orgasms throughout the month, but to me, that’s more aligned with No Nut November.
So, can you orgasm during Locktober? Yes, as long as your Keyholder agrees.
There’s no official rulebook for Locktober, so if you have a Keyholder, discuss what counts as failure or whether using vibrators or other stimulation tools is allowed. If you’re self-locked, set your own rules and stick to them.
Orgasms are allowed during Locktober (with Keyholder consent).
4. Does Not Ejaculating Increase Prostate Cancer Risk?
From a health perspective, it’s still important to ejaculate.
According to the Harvard Ejaculation Study, men who ejaculated more frequently were found to have a lower risk of prostate cancer. In a study involving 29,342 men, those who ejaculated 21 or more times per month had a 31% lower risk of developing prostate cancer compared to men who ejaculated less frequently.
Similar findings came out of Australia, where a study found that frequent ejaculation reduced the risk of prostate cancer, particularly in men who ejaculated more often in their younger years.
In short, regular ejaculation is beneficial for long-term health.
“Ruined orgasms” are a great way to maintain prostate health, and anal caged orgasms are an even better option for some. Of course, some people argue that “Ruined orgasms” are still orgasms. A caged orgasm isn’t a ruined orgasm. It’s just a different kind of orgasm. For those who like the bondage element of chastity, caged orgasms can actually be even more exciting
There’s 100% a difference. Go experiment 🙂
Conclusion
Caged orgasms are a significant step toward permanent chastity. You may need to ask yourself what chastity means to you, and what your goals are—not only for Locktober and No Nut November, but in general. When you can answer those questions, you’ll no longer need to ask what counts as “failure” because you’ll already know your goals and the rules to achieve them.
FAQ
- Cleaning: It’s best to find a way to clean your device without unlocking it every time. I use a water flosser with a bit of organic mouthwash, and it works great. You can also add a small rubber tube to the tip for more flexibility. For more cleaning tips, check out this article: Comprehensive Guide To Skin Health And Hygiene In Chastity.
- Urinating without making a mess: How do you urinate with a flat cage without making a mess? I’ve tried positioning myself differently, but in the end, I usually just uncage to urinate. It’s more sanitary, and sometimes you need to reposition anyway. Think of the cage as kinky jewelry—something you can take off when necessary and put back on when you’re ready. The real challenge is having the willpower to lock back up afterward.
- Sleeping while wearing a chastity cage: Pee before bed, and use baby powder or a skin protectant to reduce friction. Baby cream or powder is essential if you’re locked for long hours or 24/7. For more details on how to put on a chastity cage, including additional tips on sleep and wearing advice, check out this article: How to Put on a Chastity Cage: 10 Expert Tips for a Perfect Experience.
Happy Locking.
